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I had a job interview the other day. I went into it quite optimistic: it was a social agency position, paid well and was casual so I had hoped it would be a good fit for my new lifestyle… still bring in money but free up time for me to work on moving my business forward.

Within minutes I knew I was hugely uncomfortable. It was a “behavioural” interview – they gave me a strong business trait and asked me to tell about a time when I undertook the trait, how I performed it to exemplary standards, and how it benefitted all.

I have a management background and I would say I was successful. I was, however, in the caregiving field: most decisions were multi-disciplinary and were implemented as such. Have I had successes? I would say Yes, but I have never considered those successes mine alone, nor would I tout them as such.

To be asked these questions for a position in the same sort of application was very confusing for me. I strongly believe that this agency needs to work cohesively with many stakeholders, and those experiences are perhaps what they should have asked me.

When the phone interview finally ended (not soon enough) I felt like a wet noodle. I was disappointed and frustrated with myself that I could not spout professional successes at the snap of a finger… have I been fooling myself about my skills?

After about 15 minutes of serious pacing, I was looking at the situation more clearly. No, I was not going to apologize for being a team player who was perfectly okay with collective success, and I didn’t need the glory of being singled out for recognition. Sure, there are times when most of us think they should have received a bit more acknowledgement or appreciation than was forthcoming, but it has never been something I dwelled upon.

I also realized that I was disappointed that this agency was so focused on individual accomplishment instead of cohesive group dynamic and organization. If there is a correlation between the interview method and the expectation of the position, then I am better off without the job.

I happily sat down at my computer, emailed the interviewer and explained why I was removing my name from the process and competition.

And instantly, I was relieved.

As I proceed with this new on-line business venture, I want to help others have success and enable them to supplement their income or their retirement funds. To do this, my processes need to be all about my client. Sure they need to see my success to have any faith in me whatsoever, but I have that part quite in hand. I can talk the talk and I am (yay!!!) starting to walk the walk!

Success, to me, is far sweeter being shared. Success, to me, is not a lonely pinnacle but a large group of like-minded people sharing positive outcomes. Oh, and retirement! I’m big on successful retirement too!

You with me?